Healthy Relationships: Your Life Really Does Depend on Them

You have had a stressful day at work- everything that could go wrong has gone wrong.  When you finally get home you want nothing more than to collapse on the sofa and take a long nap. As you walk in the door you are greeted by big eyes with an attentive stare, small, greeting sounds and a warm face happy …

jwalk1162Healthy Relationships: Your Life Really Does Depend on Them

Lonely in a relationship? Breaking through blocks to intimacy- Part 2

So many times one partner in a couple will say “I am not sure what I want but I know it is not this…”. Before demanding change of the one you love be sure you know that change you will need to make for yourself.  Repairing relationships is often a multi-step process. For some couples and families require initial individual …

jwalk1162Lonely in a relationship? Breaking through blocks to intimacy- Part 2

Lonely in a relationship? Breaking through blocks to intimacy- Part 1

I am in a relationship. I am never alone. How can I feel so lonely?! We have all heard the old saying “Sometimes the loneliest place is in the middle of a crowd…”. And whether you are straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered, you may find that even in your closest, most intimate relationships you experience a sense of disconnect, …

jwalk1162Lonely in a relationship? Breaking through blocks to intimacy- Part 1

7 Skills for Passing Through Emotional Storms

 Even on good days we can experience a range of emotions from positive to negative. But on these days, just like a well-designed ocean liner, we can ride the waves and right our thinking and actions. Researchers refer to this quality of self-balancing in humans as “resiliency” and have identified this as an important factor in success in academic, professional, …

jwalk11627 Skills for Passing Through Emotional Storms

I am never as lonely as when I am with you…

We don’t seek out companions to feel alone. We don’t give ourselves to someone special to feel ignored.  We enter into relationships with hope and expectation- with the deep belief that finally we will experience a sense of belonging and understanding. Even those of us with healthy families and happy childhood memories look forward to the opportunity to share what …

jwalk1162I am never as lonely as when I am with you…

Three words can revitalize, and even save, your relationship

When we are caught in a conflict words can become our greatest obstacle. Either there are so many that we can never feel satisfied that we have expressed all the hurt and anger we have experienced or we struggle to even begin to describe the pain and fire that burns inside.   We may alternate between floods of recrimination and defense …

jwalk1162Three words can revitalize, and even save, your relationship

7 strategies for a healthier relationship with your family:

As you get ready for a family visit you can feel the tension building- tightening in your throat and your belly. Your thoughts are already running in circles and you prep for the worst. Who will be the first to make the snide remark or throw that critical look your way? When will the old jealousies or hurt feelings flare? …

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Burned out with caring? Make the connection between love, compassion, and self-worth

  When you look at those you love- what is your first thought, your strongest emotion? Love, caring, concern? Do you think about what you might hope for, wish for that person? Are you concerned for their well-being and safety- desiring more than anything to keep them healthy and free from pain or suffering? Our closest relationships draw from a …

jwalk1162Burned out with caring? Make the connection between love, compassion, and self-worth

Increasing your emotional intelligence through updating your emotional vocabulary

Increasing you emotional intelligence is important step in reclaiming control of your life. As a counseling therapist and a marriage counselor I often encourage clients to increase their ‘feelings vocabulary’. We all are familiar with the standard emotions of “mad, sad, happy, and scared”.  What if we were to consider adding the new words that could describe those times when …

jwalk1162Increasing your emotional intelligence through updating your emotional vocabulary